single mom issue

Is it bad that I have gotten to the point of only wanting a good and loving father? I'm a mother of 2 boys under 5years old. I don't really care so much about the sex or "love". I just want my kids to grow up with a male figure that is there and loves them.

Id hope that you'd care about the "love", as you put it. Loving you would be highly indicative of how hed love your children. There's nothing wrong with wanting a loving father figure for your kids, infact id say that's exactly what your goal should be. Your kids come first or at least I'm assuming that's the thought process. So, not to be rude...What's the issue again? I know you'll have a harder time find a mature enough guy that would want the added responsibility of instantly playing the role of dad, but you've got your mind in the right place from the question you asked.

Only guys I have found end up not being liked by my boys, or the guy doesn't want to have 4 kids. He has one and wants a girl.... I don't know how to find a guy that would be right.

Well, why not just slow down? If all you want is serious, that's fine. But, I'm sure you know being a parent is a huge deal. Some guys are just scared, immature or just don't want that kind of responsibility. It's always best to bring that right out onto the table, if they are with you, your kids are a part of the package. All you can do is keep trying or give up. Don't just go for a guy because you want a father for your kids, you have to think about you too. There's nothing like a broken household. A family is like a machine, miss one part and the whole thing messes up.