Weddings, Elopements or Other?

I prefer an elopement or something more private. Costs less, feels like a getaway and less embarrassing than a large wedding full of overconfident people invited to the wedding that may get stuck in my mind "rocking the boat".

i believe strongly on spending money on the marriage and not the wedding i just want to at most rent out a church, do my vows, do the kissy, have only immediate family there and then go to a small restaurant and munch id rather use the money on a fun honeymoon and when me and husbando-kun are perfectly financially stable plan out our vowel renewal and treat it like a wedding instead diamonds are also a scam i want a sapphire wedding ring, old school style (and also my birthstone) but in the meantime id take a silver band as an engagement ring the second biggest reason people get divorced is because of money so like hell id waste it on the inflated prices of a big wedding /rant

I'm down with elopement but I know my family and his family would hate us forever if we didn't include people.. which, I have considered doing that but then having a reception and invite people. I've always liked the idea of handfasting, so I'm thinking that's the way I'm going to go. And while I am by no means Wiccan I prefer something older and associated to the earth and physical things rather than spiritual and tied to a church. Hoping for something outside, and even considering a theme wedding because I am a fucking NERD. But if I have to invite people I want it to be fun. I don't want a typical wedding. If you want to dance, dance, if you want to play Magic the Gathering, yeah let's do that instead. I don't want people to chip in and feel responsible for everything so I definitely want to have it catered or as Lamby said in a restaurant. I COMPLETELY AGREE. Also agree Diamonds are the hugest scam of the 20th century besides buying into insurance. I want a Moissanite or Amora Gem. They are actually rarer than diamonds when they occur naturally; you can only find them via meteorite crashes.

I say marriage, weddings, etc are restrictive to both parties you or essentially giving up apart of your identity to become someone else. if there was a way to say you were married without the other giving up their identity I be game.

Honestly when you get into a relationship and "me" becomes "we" you've already gave up part of your identity even without doing it legally.

true but you still want to retain that individuality it's what makes a person the fact that they are themselves and nobody else and names hold a lot of meanings too much. an example would be Voldemort from harry potter his name became the meaning of fear within the story. the person gives the name meaning and if you change the slightest thing you are risking changing what it means to be you.

Interesting take on it. I hate my last name though and see it as an opportunity to finally get rid of that horrid monsterous thing.

I mean my name means Caleb: dog, faithful. Matthew: Gift of the Lord; Gift from God. Williams: helm of will. and it does not make sense for me since I am not much of a gift but a bad oman. not asking for compliments btw just stating observations from what I see in my life