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Cold on the outside, warm and fuzzy on the inside... anyone else find that at all attractive?

ararararagi_kun
Maria, that's awesome!! Yah, and I totally get that, it's just who you are and what's cool to me is when people who have that personality trait just embrace it :D And I don't think many people like that are attracted to the same kinds of people... that would really not go anywhere at all, would it? :P BasedSempai, well, it COULD come off as shyness... but actually, your definition of cold is close to what I was thinking, a little apathetic at first. To me, shy is hanging one's head and trying to avoid others. Cold is coming off to people as not being interested, but not in a shy way. This doesn't necessarily mean they don't like you, that's just their personality :) Trust me, I know it's not for everybody, as maria also admitted in her post! But I find people like that to be quite nice and likable, they just take a bit more work ^_^
mariahaise
Is not being shy, I said he brushed it off as shyness like he thought it was that. It isn't. But I must admit most of cold people are just introverted (shy and introvert are not necessarily the same things).
mariahaise
In my case, I'm shy and introverted but I wanted to put an emphasis in how it's not always a trait cold people have.
mariahaise
Exactly @ararararagi-kun is just a personality. It doesn't mean we don't like you, most of us appreciate silent company. We tend to be honest because we greatly dislike misunderstandings and hypocrites. However, we tend to help and have very great times with those dear to us. We show emotions in actions not in words and I think that's easier to read than someone who says something that's not true. That also means we are loyal and trustful but as seen people do not always pursue other they don't like in first meetings so, sometimes can be hard to find someone to rely onto (Of course, there are nice people on the outside and inside too I'm just talking about this particular type of person and their views).
ararararagi_kun
Well, I mean I'm actually pretty introverted myself. A lot of the people I tell IRL don't believe me, but I really am. I can only be around people for so long before I need to take a break and just watch anime or play video games or play music or something lol. But I still really enjoy being around people! So that makes it pretty easy for me to understand introverted people who are also really shy and still be able to talk to them without getting bored/distracted/what-have-you. It's cool you're at least able to be open about all that Maria, 'cause a lot of the people I've talked to in the past were still stressing out over their personality and getting really worked up, I think it's better to just accept that you're a particular way and find people who can understand you. No reason to get worked up over something or someone who was never there to begin with, right? :P
mariahaise
Yeah that's just how I am, I just make things clear haha. And I rather be alone than being with people I don't trust.
takumi_of_the_wind
This is basically my personality. I'm the male equivalent of a tsundere for the most part. I also find it attractive in the personality types with people. I find that people who are like this, commonly, are very intelligent, and also very rationally minded individuals. It seems to come with the territory. On top of that, they know how to keep somebody in line but also be loving and gentle.
ararararagi_kun
Takumi, I've never met a tsundere male irl lol. Most guys feel the need to hide their emotions in a lot of cases, and I feel like Tsundere is just the opposite. I agree though, and I think a lot of that intelligence comes from just being able to listen :D It's funny how putting two talkers in the same room can result in a lot of tension and arguments and putting two listeners in the same room results in almost nothing being said. I thing the majority of great relationships have one of each
takumi_of_the_wind
Depends on where you were raised and how. I used to bottle my emotions until that backfired. That's more a cultural standard that we're trying to move away from because bottle up men tend to be a bad thing, haha. I would know. That's why I don't bottle myself up anymore. Also, a lot of emotional trauma helped craft me into an emotionally attuned person. But meh. "tsundere" men aren't common, I can agree with that.
richaadokun
It's an interesting trait I suppose... but I always have to wonder if it's this or they just hate me. Then I feel like I'm annoying them if I try to talk to them. Then I stop talking to them. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I admittedly can get pretty shy and unresponsive at times, sometimes people take that as I'm being cold. I can understand why. ^^;
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