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How do you deal with not being good enough for someone?

gudmoore
To be bluntly honest. You just need to get over it when met with people like that. I'll go into a little more detail below. First, you can't base your worth on someone else's views. Especially if it is someone you're crushing on. The very first thing you have to do before pursuing relationships is to get to know yourself. No single person in this world will be perfect for you except for yourself. Sometimes you can be blinded by love and certainly think that person is 100% perfect for you, but it's just not true. No relationship is perfect, there will ALWAYS be quirks and such that you or the other won't like. That's perfectly fine. I'm saying all this to enforce the point that this person is far from being the only good match you'll find. You will find plenty over time. Spend time to yourself, but not sulking. Spend that time doing what you like, try new things even. Once you've reached the point of becoming comfortable in your own skin (and finally start loving yourself) is when it's time to think about relationships. At that point you start to learn how to shrug things like this off. Trust me when I say that no relationship will make you happy until you love yourself first. This can easily extend into friendships as well. You have to be happy with you first and foremost.
tritri23
Theres no such thing, your always good enough for someone if not that person your interested in. I wont change for anyone, if they like you they'll except you for who you are. Never did like people that think their above others. Its only happened once as a love interest, honestly I think nothing of it just move on. Might be more difficult though if youve already fallen for them.
ennis93
I agree with Tri Tri. You ARE good enough. It's not as easy as to throw those words around. People are different. Tastes differ, but that doesn't make you not good enough. Everybody has a place and by loving yourself and accepting who you are - you will definitely be fine. We are good enough.
cursedsilence
You know, the moment you say that you're not good enough or you're downing yourself is the moment you basically have given up. You yourself is your greatest enemy and ally. We all have things we've done wrong, pasts we don't like bringing up and some do have it worse than others. But in the end, it's about how you grew and continued to strive to make yourself better and to push forward. Telling yourself you don't deserve someone isn't ever the answer, and if they say that you don't deserve them, well then you can do better.
combatvoss
@Cinnamoon What about you is so great that your own logic does not apply to you?
yaasshat
Not good enough? I'd say if they can accept you, you're fine. It's like comparing apples to oranges. EVERYONE has flaws and it's when the "good" matches up to counteract those flaws that you become "good enough". There is no "perfect" match, just what works for you and your partner. Good enough emplies you can't do or get better and that's not how ANY relationship works.
ichigo55
I just cry like a little bitch, and then get over it within a few days to a few weeks depending on the severity of the hurt I felt.
infernalmonsoon
I just say fuck it and know that they're the one who's missing out because I know I can find someone better who can appreciate and love me for who I am. I'm never fixated on a single person as I try to keep an open mind for who I'd want to go out with, I guess that's why I'm not as bothered by this kind of thing as much as other people are.
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