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Asexuality and dating them?

flareybear
I honestly wanted to know who was asexual and you know their experiences! Or basically see who would date someone who was asexual. I'm honestly curios because i've dated so many guys who say yes they'll date me despite the fact i'm asexal and then they'll turn around and want sex. I know asexuality means that you aren't attracted to people. Which I am indeed not able to be attracted to people but I can love...and I do want to hug and cuddle. I am not unfeeling for this but I jst can't find a guy who is loyal. They have cared for me yes but I had to let them go because they just didn't understand... so I honestly want to try dating a guy who is asexal...bt its even hard to find someone who IS asexual.
leo_ss
Many people will say things such as " I don't care about sex, or someone being Asexual", Some may even believe it at first, But few have such self control. I think I can give a pretty unbiased opinion as I'm taken. Would I date an Asexual, Depends just like with everything else, As a teenager(Let alone a male one) I have a high sex drive, It's constantly in my thoughts, But as someone with a high level of self control and it being against my personal morals, I don't have it. So truthfully it would matter on the person and if I cared for them in more ways then just lust, But If I did, like for example if my current gf was, Then I still would date her because I care for her on an emotional level. Quick Answer, Yes I would. It wouldn't matter much to me. Though you must understand that sex to many is an important part of a relationship, It's just determined on personal desires in a relationship. Anyways that's my two cents, Good Luck in finding what your looking for, I know a couple of Asexual people on here, So it shouldn't be impossible to find them hahahaha.
flareybear
Thank you for your input! It's a very valued opinion and i'll keep that in mind on my search. i'm not looking for an asexual in particular to date. I wouldn't mind someone with a sex drive but it is kind of a dilema. I do understand where men come from but to a person who has told you this from the beginning and you lying to them even knowing from the beginning the circumstances it's just come with hurt. Then again I do understand just like they can't blame me for being what I am I can't blame them either so I haven't really done so. Though I wish I could I just can't. It just kind of causes some issues for me to date. Yet here I am.
kohagura
It would indeed be difficult to find a guy who honestly would be okay with no sex... And then in some cases where one partner does not want sex, the other may actually have an affair to fulfill that desire... I would probably have to explain it to everyone or search for others who are asexual. Honestly, I'd opt for the latter if possible, since many guys will say they can, but not hold up their promise if they have strong urges. Some aren't faithful, and some simply cannot help it. I think it's one of the reasons one of my friends started dating girls instead. Testosterone tends to give a high sex drive.
wallace614
I don't think it's testosterone since I met girls with higher sex drive than me, as for the no sex marriage wow that just sounds horrible I'm not saying you have to have sex daily but no sex a all I don't think any men would stand for it without a looking for an a outlet
flareybear
Well my version of cheating is a bit different. i'm perfectly okay with them having a friends with benefits. It's a bit different when feelings are involved though. It's a bit weird. call me crazy but thats really all I want. but if I can't have that i'm perfectly okay with being by myself but I like to have hope for the impossible since i've gone through the imposible myself and made it out fine. I know its odd but theres 8 billion people there. someone out there must be a match right?
wallace614
So you want a bf that is exactly like a friend that loves you but no sex?
flareybear
yes. basically. too me sex never defined a relationship. It was always just...falling in love. I know for others it varies. but I wouldn't even care if they had sex with someone else. as long they said hey i'm doing it with this guy or girl. i'd be okay with that. If we did get married..then i'd probably try to have sex with them...seeing as I want kids. and yknow if I loved them enough..of course i'd want to try and do it for them.
wallace614
that's really weird since most people in relationships become a bit possessive about their special someone which I find ahealthy in most cases but soñé people are way of
flareybear
oh trust me. I know i'm weird. I can't help the way I am. But it's unrealistic to expect them to not have sex. as you stated earlier. so it's what i've accepted that needs to happen.
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