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What are your take on love?

hopelessyandere
It depends. Do you want the old you back, the you that died, or do you like the new and corrupt, mutated version of yourself? (:
dekudan
I think love is pretty neat, it's a nice feeling knowing some one really cares about you. Knowing that the same person no longer loves you is what sucks.
hikki758
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lilithotaku
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chris_andres_dasilva
@ hopelessyandere im not sure i feel like an asshole who only cares about himself
merena
Oct 23, 17 at 3:13pm
Loved and lost. I got no regrets of loving someone, no matter how broken and hurt it made me. We're talking of life, experiences and ourselves in this matter. I got no regrets because first of all, I loved by all my heart and to second, it made me who I am today, taught me many lessons in life and made grow as a person. It didn't only break me into pieces, but also made me stronger and wiser, more open eyed to the reality. I'm female though, just wanted to reply since caught interest!
lsp
Oct 27, 17 at 10:32pm
I'm going to go against the current and say never loved at all. While I see the reason why people would choose the former since it is a learning experience and you get to learn about yourself and what you want out of a relationship I do think there is some merits of never having loved at all. If you have never been in love then you aren't as emotionally tied to the idea of finding and being with someone. You are able to focus on yourself and grow in other ways such as focusing on your education, job, financial security or just enjoy what life has to offer. You learn that relationships aren't the end all be all in life. The world has a myriad of good and bad experiences and you realize that your worth is not measured in how many people you have dated or how many people you slept with. From what I've seen people are obsessed with finding someone. They are scared that they are worthless if they do not have a partner. I know I am going on a tangent but I feel like our society puts way to much pressure on romantic relationships and a person's worth. There is more to life than love. While there are certain experiences that can only be found through love and romantic relationships human interactions are varied and dynamic. You can have a non-romantic relationship with another that can be just as meaningful and eye-opening as a romantic one.
burninghalo
LSP, your reasoning there only works if you take for granted that love cannot be gained along with personal fulfillment. First of all it is a given that emotional attachment is a human need. This is why even two people who hate each other would find a way to bond if they had to. It's human nature. But more to the point love is not some "chasing the dragon" experience that a person will always choose over personal fulfillment. And much like sex, many people who've never had it overrate and over-pursue it specifically because they've never had it and hence deify the experience with no frame of reference. This is why teenagers treat their love lives like Romeo and Juliet obsessed with each other and tying their whole identities to the relationship. I agree with the notion that a person should seek personal fulfillment in their lives. I also think approval-seeking behavior is kinda sad to look at. Your validation should not come from others if for no other reason(and there are plenty of reasons) because others can and will walk away. But someone who is their own person can lead a fulfilled life. AND invite others into it. Let em out if they prove unworthy or harmful. Learn from it. Grow from it. Momentai, and have a good day.
lsp
Oct 28, 17 at 10:02pm
@BurningHalo I was curious on what sort of discussion would be generated if I played devils advocate on this. Halo you bring up some very good points. It was a major over site of mine to fail to see that my reasoning can only happen if one gives up romantic relationships for personal fulfillment. Logically speaking it is impossible for my scenario to pass because every relationship whether it be romantic or not is intertwined and a foundation for human growth. You don't have to give up love to better yourself as a person or vise-versa. Ideally people should strike a balance between taking care of themselves and growing and nurturing a romantic relationship. The hard part is actually doing it! Have a great day.
greenumbra
It's better to have loved and lost in my opinion. It helps you grow as a person, and have more experience for your next relationship. You can never change the past, and I can tell you not doing something out of fear of being hurt is not a life worth living.(do not take this the wrong way, I'm trying to say live life to the fullest)
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