Is this even a dating site?

Kinda, but I'd say it doesn't work the way most others do. Rather than rely on a matching system to pair people off, it's best to browse around on your own, read what people write, talk to people and see if anything develops, which honestly I think is a lot more natural way of meeting people. It's certainly not what it used to be, but I wouldn't give up on it just yet. There's good people here, and some not so good ones, but that's just how it tends to be anywhere. Stick around long enough and you'll almost certainly make some friends, maybe more.

It kind of depends on the person. Tbh I'm a bit worry of people on here, due to some of the men jumping on the first female they find and try to bully them into giving them their discord/ contact. I had someone that refused my no when I kept telling them I do not feel comfortable giving them my personal contact. Kept making excusing to try to get my info. Now do I think most men are like this? No, I do not but can you blame some of us for building a fence. This is my personal experience of being on the site for a long time now. I just kind of lurk now and if I get messages I respond back.

I'm pretty much the same, I've been here so long that now I mainly lurk and if I get messages then I look at the profile and decide if I want to respond.