A question for all women on this site...

That is why I originally signed up, Rika, but I noticed the only people who are active are the ones on the forums. And most I'm sure are either taken or uninterested in relationships (for whatever reason they have)

That's what I always thought females meant by that, but I could never be sure, until now. It's still a toss up and it's still kinda depressing. I'm mean people spend money for this form of rejection. Lol. Of course I'm guilty of this as well, but I never maintained them, I just wanted to investigate the "premium" features.

nods head and acts like he understands the conversation*

You guys really went thorough with the friendzone thing there's not much else to say because all bases were touched. I'm just trying to understand what you want us girls to say Sand. Because in all honesty it really is some form of defense and it's just because they only want friends. I honestly can say I've done these things for all the above reasons but always with good intentions. It's not that I don't want to find someone I just don't want to jump the gun. I've been hurt so many times before so it's good to be a little cautious. Being friends first is also a way for that person to see if they want to continue on with the relationship or not based on if they like what you have to offer as a potential mate. But I can say I'm not afraid to take a few risks but sometimes you just gotta be careful. Especially nowadays.

The conversation has evolved a bit from the original topic. I'm not saying you guys are wrong for doing it. I was simply trying to provide insight on the guy's behalf. I totally understand the need for caution. This discussion isn't going to provide any solutions, it was just a "hey look at this from a different perspective" kinda conversation. I'm not looking to stick it to anyone. :]

No no I get it. I just didn't quite understand what you wanted to know. So basically yeah this topic is a bit touchy. But I don't think it's just perspective because both/guys and girls do it. You just gotta find someone who's willing to do more than be friends. Honestly you kind of have to be friends or acquaintances first. In my opinion because I remember kind of just going for it before I got to know said person and well...he cheated on me. So ya know that's a really good reason why but I seriously understand the guys point. Why come on Mai if you're not lookin for a guy? Some are and some aren't is all I can say. Everyone is different lol this is a really broad topic. :/