What girl would date me?

Women who down themselves and pull the pity me act are not that attractive too. Dont think I only believe that about men.

^ I personally have no problem with women who are down on themselves. I don't really think the whole"lack of confidence" is a turn off to everyone.

To be honest, I am not a looker. I might not be the perfect guy for a girl, but that doesn't mean I wont stop and just drop dead. You need to pick yourself up and make your self seem like you are better than the person who pushed you down.

^ The OP lacks confidence, yet he's into college and ready for a successful career. Why is it, that ppl who lack confidence must get shafted and treated so poorly? What if someone was born with a nasty skin disease and they can't do anything to change their gross appearance? Wouldn't this person lack confidence then? What if someone has severe autism? You clearly know the nasty hate autistic ppl get right? Do you think someone who's autistic will have confidence in themselves? What if a nonconfident person is a great human being, yet someone who is confident is a complete asswipe? Honestly if you or anyone would choose the latter of the two, it just makes me question humanity. Nonetheless, read the 5th page in the weight/body types topic and see a girl in there saying the opposite of what your saying. Honestly this whole,"dislike/shafting those who are depressed or low on self esteem" is annoying.

Well there are some people who get into relationships with lack of confidence and usually unless the person they are dating KNOWS this before they get into a relationship, Cause there are some people out there that can deal with healing and helping one tone up there confidence levels but most people.. Don't want to deal wtih self pity people as much as they have been emotionally damaged by life or others.. The attractive image is someone who can carry there own weight and baggage of life no matter how hard it has been on them. And there are people who have had easier lives and are more emotionally healthy and there are other people who have had harder lives and results in not being emotionally healthy especially if they haven't had proper healing for example talking about your problems with a therapist.. Confidence is something you build inside yourself but it is not something that will just magically come even if you change your mindset. Confidence is something that builds from POSTIIVE experiences.. You can't trick your mind to believe your confidence and thus gaining it, You get it from positive experiences. And if your always afraid of doing something new or of failing then you'll have a hard time. YOu have to find something you like doing and love doing, Don't think about relationships first build your confidence in yourself by positive experiences with your friends, in your school or work or meeting people. Confidence will come also if you love yourself and are content and accepting of yourself if you aren't and you don't like a cretin part of yourself try to better the part until you've more comfortable with it or stop looking at it in such a negative way and become accepting of it. Not everyone is going to LOVE you and Give you attention you will always have people who will not like you and give you hard time and put you down but don't let them get the best of you and stand up for yourself. And when you do you'll find confidence will slowly grow in you, By saying you ' Don't care. It's meaningless, IT DOESN'T MATTER. Who cares? ' ARE you really okay with it being that way? Your simply playing yourself, You think these things don't matter but if you look at your situation and the question you should notice the fact if it does or doesn't is not what matters its how you want it to effect you. I never really been in a relationship but I also lack confidence in myself and I'm trying my best to build it inside me by doing new things and becoming more accepting of myself an the way I am. I'm a big girl so many guys don't really find overweight gals attractive so I've always had problems in relationships..And I tell you it is not easy building confidence in yourself but if you stop trying to focus on just that about yourself and let it go and just do what you enjoy you might start to build it without even noticing it. Don't stress over it and stop trying to find the perfect girl the person who will accept you as you are will come the only thing you have to do is paitently wait, But everyone is so impatient and jump into relationships they should never of even got into and often it doesn't work out and ends up in broken hearts and of course your confidence levels decrese.. Just love yourself for who you are and stop trying to make others love you or find others who will love you. You need to love yourself before you can love anyone else, and the fact you aren't confidence in yourself shows that you are unsure or unsatisfied with your current self..That you aren't loving enough of it. Don't kid yourself by saying I dont care...Deep inside you, You do care and its okay to care you need to pick up those little pieces of yourself and piece them together stop waiting for someone to do it for you. Confidence will come with self love and self acceptance.. And appreciation for yourself.

Everyone is different, some people break easier than others. I don't go looking for people but I wouldn't say I have low confidence. Some people just don't bounce back from bad things like other people. But that doesn't mean people don't try. Some people has had it rough than others too. Assumption is the worst thing people are at. Someone that is full of confidence can be a total wreck while someone that seems introverted can be someone that believes he can do anything. I'm sorry but the whole attraction to somebody being confident to me isn't a surefire way at all on judging someone, honestly I.think.its the worst way to judge someone. Sometimes its the one that keeps themself out of the spotlight that's the better person.

@ Silver's Silent Well said bro well said. *Bro fists* Also Cantthinkofabettername your credibility is out the door. Flinging an insult to someone younger than you is pretty sad if you ask me.