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scarecrowk
Well, I really like her but she seems like she is still not over her last boyfriend. I was a little crushed when I heard she had a boyfriend several months ago and when I heard they broke up I was both over joyed, and angry at myself for feeling happy about him dumping her. She knows how I feel and I want to try and be there for her... But then I also feel that she's still not over him. So, any advice on how to help her get over him? Or How to remind her how I feel? I know most of us are still hopelessly single. But I'm sure somewhere out there is some good advice.
scarecrowk
Heh. She said that she wants to help me out of my shell... Makes me think of that one anime Welcome to the NHK. She's even suggested that I apply at the Walmart where she works. Heh. I'm worried that I'm being to cautious, but I've been hurt several times in the past and it's hard to open up outside of the internet. The me out there in the real world is much less charismatic than this old scarecrow. Heh. I'd almost venture as far as to say we are different sides of one one another.
otakumaiku
I've been in this kind of situation several times before. there are downfalls to both decisions you if you choose to ask her out or not. If you do ask her, benefit is she's yours,'hell yea' right? But the downside to that is; what if you're right and she's not over her ex boyfriend? She then breaks up with you (or mutual understanding break up) and you're back to square one. The other hand, if you decide not to ask her out just yet, good side is that you dont risk yourself in a emotional situation. The downside on that though, she may lose interest and/or it gives someone else a chance to win her heart. This is the kind thing that sucks about this situation. My best answer for you is to sit her down and talk to her, express how you feel about her but also include the situation about how you feel about her and he recent broke up. Make her understand that you want her but that also she has to make sure this is what she wants. Utilize one of the strongest weapons to use in to strengthen your bond, Communication. I hope that might spring a idea for you.
scarecrowk
Well, she's still not over her ex... She says I'm someone important to her, but she also feels that it wouldn't be fair to me or anyone else to start dating again when she still has feelings for him. I'm not going to push her to make a decision and I can understand her reasoning, it's just hard knowing we both feel something for one another but can't be together just yet. My emotions are all over the place right now.
otakumaiku
In best case scenario, just try to be there for her when you can. Take her out places that would help take her mind off her boyfriend so then shes looking at you. Give her time, if shes true to her feelings eventually she will come around. Of course, thats if he ex boyfriend doesnt try going after her again.
scarecrowk
Well, her ex has apparently moved on. She says she's noticed that she's feeling better about the situation, but her ex and her are still talking. (Even though says she wishes she could just ignore him. But can't.) *Sigh* I guess the situation is improving. It's just really tough to see someone you really care about and want to be with go through such tough times. But, I just gotta be there for her I guess. She's offered that we could be friends with benefits for now... This whole situation just has me strung out though. -_- Meh. Gonna call it a night.
aaroniero_aseyah
damn bro that sucks :-/
scarecrowk
Meh. I'm done with this... This "relationship" is just stressing me out and making me hate myself. If she wants to be friends then so be it. But I'm not going to keep my heart open to her if she is just going to play with it a little whenever she doesn't have anything better to do. Heh. I don't know. I guess I'm kind of mad at her right now. Seems she only talks to me when it's convenient for her. She was wanting to hang out and be friends after not talking for months. But now that she's over her Ex, she hasn't said anything in weeks. Heh. I deserve better. I've been enough fucking hell already. I don't need more of it from someone who can't make up their mind. -_- So yeah. Guess I'm completely single again. Been talking to a girl in West Virginia who is cute and has similar tastes. But I'm pretty sure we are just friends. (Though we joke about things like taking a bus up there or down here, and doing stuff involving stealing her Gundam panties. XD) But meh. I'm single. As always.
scarecrowk
-_- They really need to work out a line break feature. It's annoying to organize a post into paragraphs and then watch as it's smushed into a big mush of text.
scarecrowk
Well... Fuck. -_- Apparently the reason she hasn't talked to me is because she's back together with her Ex. I'm just really tired of this... It's bad enough that I'm A) An otaku, with a B) borderline autistic disorder that makes it extremely hard for me to feel comfortable around most people... But now this. Another fucking page in this depressing life. I ant to be mad at someone... But she told me from the start that if he asked she'd go back to him. Sigh. I guess I was just hoping that it'd work out somehow. Just so tired of being toyed with. My emotions are already screwed up enough without all this.
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