BDSM not just about boiking

@rabbithole Haha made you tell your story bitch. You right I'm still learning thought you was learning to. My bad. No skin off my back being the bad guy thought you needed one. I'm totally a piece of shit so if I can help someone not ruin there marriage I'm gonna try. Your still a dookyhole for cheating but I don't blame you. And, who uses the word dookeyhole anyway weirdo. Anyway 3 or 4 years of being treated like shit does that to a man. Don't give me the whole spill how you love her or you wouldn't be looking for some action. I guess you being held in place by the kids. And, residual love for her. As someone who cheated while having kids and married it was the worse mistake of my life I destroyed our family. But, if your really not happy it is what it is. You must be trying to find someone to end it over if you hate thots. Regardless none of my business you do you freaky man. You still come off as creepy in your profile don't you know you scaring the females away.

Damn... Here I'm the one who's historically, on here, been a judgy ... How was it? Dookie hole.lol Y'all are silly...lol You can't justify cheating, EVER. Not happy? Leave. The way I figure it is like this... What am I teaching my kids if I stay in a miserable relationship/marriage that has no chance? Your kids will model your behavior and that's the most important factor, even above your "feels". Don't have kids? Well, that makes it even easier to just end things and keep your dignity. Just my two cents.

the way I see it, it doesn't seem like you are looking for a serious relationship. I mean, sex and kinks are great and all, but what about the other 98% of the time? You also have to consider the huge amount of marriages that fail because they got married because the sex was good, but couldn't stand eachother 90% of the time. Now if you are just horny and want a casual relationship you just gotta find a way to make a lot of money and hit the gym every day because for a man that's pretty hard to achieve unless you are a Casanova or hot right out the box.

Gonna be blunt... It's a case of having no balls. If you gotta sneak to find your sub, you're doing it wrong.lol He's married... Planning on cheating, thinks being upfront about that is a plus(If you'd cheat on your WIFE, you'd cheat on anyone , like a self serving coward.), buuuuut he has reasons that make it ok because "Poor me and MY needs!!! Look how I've suffered so and DESERVE to be unfaithful!!! You wouldn't understand!!!". Ha... Gonna judge the ever loving shit outta that.lol Tries to put some undisclosed age out as some sort of "I've been through shit and understand more." kinda moral course.lol Cheating irks me to no end, for reasons I've personally been through... I've no mercy nor sympathy for those who want to justify it and bitch about what they've been through that makes it understandable. End rant...

Get em Yaasshat. Don't cheat unless you want ghosts hunting you if you even cared a little bit about your family. And, don't break your woman heart and tear your family apart. Just end it on good terms if you not happy. Last thing you want is the mother of your kids hating you that makes everything difficult. Your not really mature in love if you willing to cheat on your spouse I just gave you some face in my last comment cause atleast you went 3 to 4 years. That's better than me but it doesn't justify your cheating because you endured longer. That's on me for not coming back at you for your bullshit.

That's how it started 3-4 yrs. The first 2 is the woman I loved, now 12 yrs later I'm still with her faithful for all the reasons you guys put on here. So you don't think I've tried? You ever been with a person that tells you "till death do us part" "Your not going anywhere"? (Dont cheat)Ok just break it off with that person...Im sure those judging have cushy lives were the consequences to their choices were never terrible. Let's say I'm just in my head about that and would never happen. I've tried peaceful separation and I was given a list of ways my life would be legally equivalent to walking on rusty nails. I see how I come off here but sex is not the one only thing that I'm looking for, it's respect. Bdsm is a contract formed out of respect and trust. What do you think happens when one parent has obvious disrespect towards the other? The kids follow suit. I asked around on that subject, the response i received was kids are resilient, let's be honest most homes around the world are raised by 1 parent so don't let the fear of kids coming out bad hold you back from your own happiness. The ugly truth is life isn't garenteed and even if your raised with 2 parents you might still come out tucked up. (I have kids so it's habit to censor my bad words and I hate when shit is censored so I used Boink, dookyhole ect) So I'm here willing to give up everything for something real. Yes I'm blunt and honest but thats because if by some miracle I did find someone I wouldn't want them to find out all this bullshit after we vibed. I know most of us can live their entire lives nvr finding happiness with someone so I know that what I'm asking/looking for is seemingly impossible but there's a chance.

Relationships are hard. Sounding a bit like a midlife crisis mixed in as well. Have you talked with a councilor? It couldn't hurt.

Yeah... I second the councilor part. It's one thing to leave a marriage when it's not going to work and another when you try to validate betrayal, lying and cheating(You talk of respect and trust in BDSM... You ain't got that.lol). I too have children, I have been cheated on while married and I heard the same bullshit for why it was ok....It's not and it'll leave a life long scare on ALL parties, believe me. So, not cushy, but I judge because I've been through it. What're you going to do if you find "happiness"? Just continue to hide and lie? Why not cut the ties NOW and avoid that? Legalities ? You live in VA... If she's willing, go for an uncontested divorce. Better than getting caught (You will likely.) and her using infidelity as leverage.

Because as I stated she will make it hi stakes. Im talking not just about child support, divorce, alamony...im talking about 401k, my job, and the kids. I see her screwing me over on my job then telling the kids you see he doesn't love you, she's told me I would not be aloud to step a foot on the property. Meaning I wouldn't be able to see my kids. All this was said without even a thought of cheating. I tried to leave peacefully and that was her response. If im going to get full force of consequences for something I have never done then I might as well do it anyway. When we fight I tell her let's do couples counseling or therapy. She agrees but never does anything to fix our situation. Why should she? Because I'm a blue collar worker that works 10hrs a day 6 days a week with an hr commute. When she is already on her phone and has more time to set up appointments. Instead I get told that "i" need to fix it not us or we. She says she's not fixing it that I have to figure it out. She's the type of person if she has one bad experience she won't visit or do that thing again. Well over the years she is less willing less patience, and less understanding. Im at my whitts end with this only waiting for the next time I do something disappointing to her with no clue what it is I did to have yet another argument, and when we are good I just don't trust the love we share anymore because I'm going to do something wrong piss her off and another argument. My plan isn't to cheat and continue cheating. It's to find someone who has patience, understanding, and willingness to work on the things that are hard. How do i fix a relationship with someone that doesn't want to try? How do i keep a relationship when there is no trust, patience, and understanding? Why should I worry about the consequences of cheating if I will recieve that regardless of cheating or not? You want to talk morality, your preaching to a guy at the bar drinking straight whiskey while you convince him smoking is bad. I know it's bad and unforgivable...but I'm afraid the next time we have another argument I will be on the street. Literally. Might as well start looking now.