How to cope with a break up?

@Enelez: I have to disagree with #3. You should never burn any bridges unless it's an extremely special circumstance. It's ok to grow apart after a breakup. It's ok to start disliking that person. It's ok to hate them sometimes. It's ok to ignore them for a while if you need your space and time. But outside the special circumstances mentioned earlier, there's no reason to wipe them from existence. Especially in OP's case where the ex is the mother of their child. It's easy to think only about yourself and walk away from everything but is it the right thing to do? Especially towards the kid? I don't believe so.

Oh sowieeee o.O I haven't thought about the kid... But if that's the case then they can still support each other for the sake of the kid...

Deffinitely don't try to erase them. It's still a fresh break up in terms of how long you two were together. The most I can say is, stay friends and find someone new. I put the two together because right now you have a hole from her. You need to find another who can make you feel that way again and fill it with them. Then that makes becoming friendly with the ex easier. You would be suprised how much easier it is when they are a friend. You dont have to take their shit and any resentment anger for you will probably slowly go away as they find someone. As for distractions I find the best thing is exercise. If my mind ever wandered on late at night about the ex I would just go to the gym for an hour or two. Plus this way you are,doing you. Get healthy and get someone better. I will say the first month or two for me this was all hard to do. So take it slow if you need to. But it has got to happen at some time. Good luck man.

Yea I can't exactly burn her bridge since we need to be on at least decent terms in order to avoid a nasty custody war and a feud between eachother for when he eventually starts visitations when he is older. I'm doin what I can to not see her for now so I can heal more smoother. Really, one big reason this breakup particularly messed me up, was because I never saw it coming. If I saw it coming a mile away and we knew no matter what we did nothing was gonna work out then I probably would be healing smoother but since it went from discussing marriage and vacation this summer, plans for next Halloween, to WHAM done and everything it pretty much shot my nerves up so it may take some work and time to heal but I appreciate everyone's advice! I'll need all the help I can get

As some mentioned, make some time for yourself like a new hobby. Maybe share the hobby with your kid? We all have different ways to cope but pretty much take the time to heal then begin to improve yourself after healing.

Find a replacement partner that doesn't mind being used. If you want to do it the harder way you can distract yourself with hobbies, work, and self-improvement. I think a combination of both is quickest and least painful.