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pippin3087
Whether it's my luck or I haven't been looking in the right places, I've only met two women in the last ten years who were into Japanese anime, both already in a relationship. I'd like some advice from fellow anime fans on their experience with meeting new friends or potential dates, and any suggestions are welcome. I want to first start out by talking a bit about myself, and maybe some of the things I've noticed about me that may be hurting my chances. I'm 28 and I have only dated and haven't really had a long term relationship yet. I've been told I'm a kind person, I care about my family and friends and am pretty easy going. I work really hard and I can usually get along with anyone. One thing that I'm sure of, and I know people are going to debate about this with me (which is fine), but I just want to find a girlfriend who has similar interests. I know I've heard others say that if two people have too much in common they will always argue or not get along, but I've never found that to be the case with me. Spending the rare moments with my friends that are female and have the same amount of passion and energy for their hobbies like anime was some of the happiest times of my life. It might just be a coincidence, but the women I have dated either didn't understand what I liked, or flat out hated it. We got along fine, but it was just boring and not what I want in life. Here is a list of a few of the things I think might be hurting my chances: - while I am physically fit and go to my fitness center every other day, and I take care of myself and my health, I am bald. I've been told by more then one woman that they will not date me because of this. Now I know there are girls out there who like bald guys, but it seems like more of a uphill battle when you are. - unfortunately because of my work schedule, I haven't been to too many anime conventions. I work at a job where I tend to be there during every weekend of every year, so my free time when most people have it off is more limited. Also I've been told trying to flirt or pick up women at a convention is frowned upon (I can understand why) so it seems like that wouldn't work. - I've been using online dating for trying to meet others who are like minded, but I've found there aren't many in my area. I don't think I'm that picky other then liking anime, but the only other condition I have is that they don't smoke, which cut my chances by over 50% on there. >_< there also seems to be less members because I live out in the countryside, about two hours from Boston. - I do work with women at my job who are my age and friendly, but it seems like nobody has any romantic interest in me, and I've been told it's because i tend to look very serious at work. >_< someone compared me to Usui from Chibi Vampire. Maybe I'm not easily approachable, I'm not sure about this one. I guess that's it. It's been very frustrating for me because it seems like every place I read about, nobody seems to have any issues meeting anime fans and getting dates. People have told me to hang around Barnes and Nobles in the manga section and wait for someone, but that just seems creepy and I think wouldn't work. I've heard that anime is much more popular now then it was when I was in college so maybe it's easier for people to make connections these days. I even have two VIP passes to see Pamyu Pamyu in NYC coming up and I can't find a single person that wants to go. Thanks again for any help, I don't mind constructive criticism either! Please just remember I'm not a child and I'm not looking for some real life fantasy anime girl, I just want to meet someone who has similar interests my age. ~_~ NOTE: some people have told me I should quit my job so I can go to more conventions. I'm not going to do that. I realize my social life is impaired because of my schedule but I make good money and I'm not going to leave my job. :p
evora
You need to add pictures because most all relationships have some form of physical attraction. be honest and confident about who you are. 1 Shave your head and embrace the baldness women love confidence. Buy a pair of aviators or other designer glasses you like and take good care of them. Look at it as an investment into you. 2 Welcome to MaiOtaku (pssst these girls are looking for a guy who likes anime) 3 an otaku is not a common thing and a female otaku is even rarer so look nation wide. I decided when I joined this site I would fly or buy the right girl a plane ticket for a date. I mean come on you can get a round trip ticket for $99. You would piss away more than that on a subscription dating site and more than likely not find someone who likes anime. 4 go to a bar, buy one beer, talk to random people (not just girls) and make acquaintances. This is the cheapest and most effective way to develop social skills. keep in mind different bars have different personalities so find one you fit in and enjoy. I can pick up girls and get numbers at bars but those girls don't have what im looking for. I want someone i connect with and like my geeky side. I want to be totally open and have wonderful conversations. This site is perfect to that end. talk to random people after reading there profile and you should meet someone.
pippin3087
Hello! 1. I do embrace my baldness. I never cared that much for losing my hair, and I like shaving my head. 2. thanks! 3. I'd like to find someone within the 70 mile range at least 4. I don't drink, and I just want to find a girl who is into anime, I don't think looking at a bar is going to help me unfortunately. Thank you again though
rika_chan93
Yeah a bar and a club are probably the worse places to find a girl. Cause my sister's brother does that and he's dated alcoholics. Not saying that everyone that goes to bars are alcoholics but the chances are possible. And well, just get a girl into it if you can't find one. Anime is awesome. I love it! Other ppl should love it too. :)Baldness, I guess that matters to some but to me its whatever. Why judge someone on hair style preferences. But you seem cool. I wish you luck on your search and hope you find your amazing otaku girlfriend one day!!
jikokun
Finding an otaku at a bar is like meeting a vegetarian at a slaughter house. Could it happen, sure. But the odds are slim. You have a better chance on here with all the dead accounts (so I hear) than that idea.
stellalina
LMAO I love your avatar. NANA IS AWESOME. Try going to an anime convention and cosplay as that bald guy from Nana. Your bound to meet someone who will click with you. You'd be surprised how popular that character is in the fanbase, I think he is awesome too.
derpina95
@Stellalina Ikr!! I'm still waiting for a season 2 (will most probably never happen ) n.n @Pipin Maybe you can try finding friends in forums and if you guys click you can continue from there: ) Just have an open mind and try to meet women in real life. If they don't like anime you can tell them why you like it and then tell them something like "you should try it out when you have the time. " and give them some recommendations . That's how I got most of my friends into manga /anime lol maybe it will work: ) gambatte!
jikokun
I would love to find anime friends around here, but most people are either guys or like 14. :/
jikokun
And finding a girlfriend who likes anime and gaming, I'd have better odds winning the lottery and getting struck my lightning
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