Hey girls, what do you really want?

I tried to be romantic once, a surprise on Valentines Day, I was going to head to that said persons house with roses and chocolates (I know it's cliche you don't need to point it out) I was about to head out and then I get a call. A heated conversation ensued. I got yelled at for not planning ahead for the day. I yelled back through the phone that I planned to surprise her that day. There was silence after that. We broke up that day. I'm not brooding or anything it's just part of my point besides it happened about 4 years ago so it's just an example. What I'm asking is for the girls opinion or POV for that matter. What is it that girls really look for in a man. I mean I'm not picking a fight or anything, believe me. The very idea of a woman wanting to be swept off their feet is complete bs . Or wanting someone caring because every girl I have ever met seems to contradict that notion and go out with a complete ass, again that's just what I have noticed around me. I mean, I am a kind and considerate person at heart at least that's what I have been told anyway, but it never works. Being nice just doesn't work

Some people are just assholes. Point blank. Everyone's different. In my case, I hate the whole romance thing. I don't want flowers or chocolate's. I think it's creepy. Others, think it's the cutest thing ever. So, your question is really just a matter of opinion. In that case though, she sound like a major skitch. No offence.

Your question is really pointless. Not trying to be rude, but it is. I mean, the same could be applied to guys in "what do we really want?" The thing is, that isn't gender specific, but is person specific. Sure there are some things that fit the majority, but each person is different. Relating it to my personal life, I have dated girls that enjoyed romance and girls that thought it was corny. I have dated girls that hated to argue and girls that loved to argue. I have even dated girls that basically just wanted a free night out of food and drinks. Some of the girls I have dated the breakup was their fault, some it was my fault, and some where no one was at fault. When I was in my early 20's I thought I had it figured out. Based on the fact that so many girls I knew said that they wanted a kind and considerate guy that loved them. Well, I tried that approach and it didn't work. Then I noticed that a lot of my friends that were saying that really just wanted a bad boy that they could have fun with and bitch about to their friends. To be fair my male friends weren't any better, though they usually just went for hot girls over pretty much anything else.

I dont normally talk about stuff like this on here but Nate you are right. Expecting one gender to do something is really just not going to work. People are going to be different regardless of gender, based on a whole slew of variables. Although gender does have some influence on things in the end its not absolute by all means. However I will not take sides on either party here. From what I can tell it seemed like bad timing on your part. Then things started going on a emotional fritz. I would not blame her or yourself on that matter. On the topic of nice guys and such though. This depends on the variation of nice guy you are talking about. All in all I think being nice is about helping others out and forming bonds friends or relationships connecting on a wider level. In my opinion the whole I should get a reward for being nice thing really does not pan out that well in reality.

I don't think it's a pointless question there is no pointless question only limitless answers anyway I'm not reversing it. I get what you're saying though, thank you. I acknowledge that every relationship is going to be different and requires compromise on both sides and obviously people are different but why would someone contradict their own specific interest. I can't pretend to be someone I'm not nor do I intend to change my own principals. I have always been the nice guy and I just can't be the bad boy.........Guess I just have to wait a little longer lol

I'm not saying to quit being nice. Just be yourself. Either you will eventually find someone or you won't. Better to take longer to find the right one than to settle and be unhappy. I had a friend from college that settled, it didn't end well. The downside to waiting though is that, as you get older, the selection drops significantly. Many people grow into new hobbies and leave anime or gaming behind. Most women near my age (at least where I live), quit considering me as dating potential when they find out about my hobbies. Oh well, everyone is free to like what they like. A bright side to this is that, if we live long enough, Japan will invent us a robot significant other at some point.

Well, I mean it shouldn't be a matter of wanting. I mean I think it's mostly the gestures we do to show how we care for someone . Either it will be appreciated or won't. You tried doing something for her and in the end the result wasn't good. It's kind of like what TaylorHime said. Some girls would be thrilled or others will be mad cause you didn't buy them a more expensive gift. It all depends.

Girls are freaking complicated. You can't master what you can't understand. It's not a bad question. It's interesting to see others views on romance. You just phased it, odd. ^.^