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What is your opinion of single parents?

akitou
As the single father of my two-year-old daughter, how people respond to this fact is very important to me. I feel as though many women will choose to overlook someone who already has a kid for a variety of reasons that they may or may not be willing to openly admit. I would like to hear some honest opinions; why would or would you not date someone who already has a kid? If so, would there be strings attached?
amrodcalanor
I wouldn't mind but I'm a guy. :D
akitou
Well, the question extends to guys in regards to women with children from previous relationships, as well. =)
amrodcalanor
I think mainly why someone would have a problem with it is because they would want children of their own. But I know alot of women that find men with kids attractive. It shows you have maturity and are prepared for settling down.
rainx
Age and place in life play a big factor. I don't think a 19 year old college student would want to deal with that versus someone in their mid 20s who has a degree and a solid job. Then there is just the stigma of not wanting to deal with someone else child and that being the focus of someone's life and less on a potential relationship with someone new. It's happened to me before and why I stopped dating a girl after a couple of months because she could rarely find a babysitter for her toddler and all we did was mainly sit at her place when she wasn't working and could rarely go out. The dad was pretty much out of the picture other than for child support.
wallace614
Well In my personal opinion I'll say I have nothing against girls with babies of whichever age. Now that been established I try to avoid them as Cecil stated their main focus and priorities are their children as it should be. That doesn't work in a relationship there's a lot of holds and limitations.
jikokun
I have dated a person with two kids, both with special needs for 5 years. I loved them like they were my own, but things just didnt work out between us. Would I again, yes.
yuusaku_godai
I've dated two women who both had 2 kids. I know they face a lot of challenges as a single mother; it's tough. I can tell ya that you'll never be number 1 in their eyes; family comes first which is completely understandable. It also can be hard to balance time and attention between: you, the parent, and their kids. You also need to know how to act around their kids; trying to be their friends is a good start. Follow the parent's wishes of how to deal with them. As long as the one you're dating has an open mind and is welling to listen to healthy advice and criticisms should function rather well. However if someone gave me a "my way or the highway" attitude about their kids I wouldn't even bother. I think that you shouldn't avoid someone just because they already have baggage. You never know, it can be a real treat and could be the best thing in your life. Normally I would definitely try dating someone if they had kids, however I just dated two women in a row with kids and I want to try taking a break from that and focus on myself.
azora
I wouldn't mind. I dated a man with a child and personally we had a great time together, I even got along with his son and his ex girlfriend but we just ended up being better friends. Now that I am a single parent myself I am not sure how it would work out but I would still be willing to give it a chance.
buji
I think a single parent is stronger than a normal one, it's the other's fault for not being able to commit. As for dating someone with a child or children, I'm sure I'd be alright with it, I was with someone who had a son but things didn't work out between us. The only problem(s) I would have with it is that I wouldn't be able to really spend some romantic time with that person without worrying about the kid(s) and would kinda like one of my own. I'm good with children and as long as I really love that person then it shouldn't matter. I'm just not quite ready to jump into being a father figure
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