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kentaberdeen911
Would you enter a relationship with a person half way across the world and what's your time limit on meeting them.
brokenheartache
I wouldn't do it because that person could be cheating on you. Plus, I would miss him too much.
brandonmckinney1987
I am normally against long distance relationships, but if I managed to meet someone who is an otaku and has similar interests I would quite possibly drive across the entire United States to be with them. There have been a few times I would drive upwards 9 hours to meet someone who is interested in me off of dating sites even though we have 0 common interests. I would change countries or even possibly learn a new language if it met meeting a person who's interested and an otaku, so I guess it all depends how much you want to be with that specific person. The women I have been with the past few years have been COMPLETELY wrong for me, most if not all of the women around here think anime and otaku are a type of fruit and are into tight jeans, country music, fishing and cowboy hats.
miya
Apr 10, 14 at 5:43pm
Hmmm.... Long distance relationships... It's a very interesting topic, but I'd have to say that honestly? I think I'd like one. Although, one of us would have to move eventually, and I wouldn't want anyone to uproot unless we are 100% sure that it's a sure thing. So it's more down to the fact of the matter that I would love a LDR if we were on the same page with everything, and one of us wouldn't jump the gun and move there after 6 months or so only for it to not work out in the end. Or something similar. In all honesty, I feel as though a LDR gives you more time to know the person you are dating without getting caught up in the whirlwind known as intimacy. As for a time limit? I don't think I'd have one. I guess if I REALLY thought about it. I'd want to meet them by... 6 months into the relationship? But sometimes that's not possible because of job/money/etc. So if that's the case, then as long as we skype weekly and make time to keep each other updated about our lives and such. I'd be happy.
buji
Apr 10, 14 at 5:56pm
I've been in a long distance before, it wasn't that bad for a while. The main problem with it is I really want to hold someone and be there physically when they're upset or need someone. My last long distance ended pretty badly, she had the stereotypical Asian family who didn't approve of me because: 1. I'm hispanic 2. I wasn't going to school at the time 3. I wasn't working a good job (I was working to see her however) 4. it was long distance So they put a lot of pressure on her, not to mention one of her friends told her I was cheating on her, even though I never did, nor would I ever cheat on anyone. I actually try extra hard not to make any sort of mistake in a relationship. So since she chose to believe her friend, she lost trust in me, no matter how hard I tried to prove my love and commitment. --- One of my friends was in a relationship for over 2 years long distance, they met and everything too after a while, the relationship wasn't necessarily bad but they ended up breaking up anyways. --- In the end, I say they're not bad as long as you have communication and trust, like every relationship As for time limit, it varies on how well you trust each other (and how you're doing financially)
kentaberdeen911
Ok I have Mixed vies on it
jikokun
Bottom line, if you can support travel expenses, go for it. See each other at least 4 times a year for a week or two if possible, But make sure they are willing to come to you as well. If they are unwilling, you need to ask yourself If it's really worth it. Video chat helps a lot, obviously. The only problem you'll have is if you have trust issues. The relationship will crumble once there is an inkling of doubt that there is cheating going on. It's tough, But possible to have a healthy relationship that is long distance. If you Persue it, best of luck.
alexislynn
I am in a long distance relationship. You just both need to be up to it. I live in Wisconsin, my boyfriend lives in Maryland. We have been dating almost 8 months now. We skype on a regular basis, try to every night but that doesn't always work out. Over the time we have been dating, he has come here twice and I have gone there twice, normally for about a week at a time. I just got back from being with him last tuesday. I go there again in May for his Army ball and he is coming here for 3 weeks at the end of May/ beginning of June. We make it work. On top of that, I'm moving to Maryland in August. You just have to be the right kind of person to make a LDR work. They aren't easy. You will miss the person like crazy and crave the physical touch, but if they are the right person, it is worth it. I say look to yourself first to try to figure out if you could deal with a LDR. Then, before going into one, you need to make sure the person you are interested in is able to commit to that as well. In the end, I feel like LDR become serious much faster because of all the obstacles you are overcoming to be together. Its not something you go into lightheartedly.
gurutar
i've been in a long distance relationship for about a month and a half. it started out great, but the more we fell in love the more i regretted saying anything to her to begin with because the longing is gruesome. not the longing for sex, just physical contact like cuddling and hugs. i need that in my life. so i'm probably going to end the relationship soon.
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